Wednesday, February 19, 2014

"The Shopping Addiction Cure: How to Stop Your Compulsive Spending Forever!" by Olivia Sanborne

The Shopping Addiction Cure:
How to Stop Your Compulsive Spending Forever!
by Olivia Sanborne

You’re about to discover if your spending habits are just a little out of control or if you have a spending addiction. Millions of people struggle with overspending and mismanagement of their income. If you are finding yourself in this situation, then perhaps you may have a shopping addiction. Being a shopaholic is no laughing matter, if disregarded, this could potentially ruin your future and your family's future. Most shopaholics use the excuse as they are trying to do their part to ensure a productive economy, but the truth is, your economic future is in jeopardy if your destructive habits have you deeply in debt. If you hide any purchases from your partner or friends - then this book is for you. This book will help you understand the meaning of addiction and what steps you can take to control your spending. You will get some basic steps to guide you through methods to control your addiction, information about addiction, strategies to stay on track while shopping and where to go for help and support.
Here is a preview of what you'll learn...
  • What is Compulsive Shopping?
  • How do you know that you are a shopaholic?
  • Why do compulsive spenders spend?
  • What if you are not a severe compulsive spender?
  • Seeking Counseling
  • Where to turn for information
  • Much, much more!

Chapter 3: Why do compulsive spenders spend?
People shop and spend money for many different reasons. The most obvious reason to shop is to buy the things that you need to survive. If this is the reason that you shop, then you are probably not a shopaholic.
According to Terrence Shulman, founder of the Shulman Center for Compulsive Theft, Spending, and Hoarding, one of the reasons that shopaholics overspend is because they may have been denied possession of things when they were young. Now that they are older and have access to money, they want to buy all the things that they didn’t have when they were kids—and they also do the same for their own kids.
Another reason might be that they enjoy the thrill of buying things. It is exciting to them. They enjoy the feelings of euphoria when they can exert the power to just go into a store and buy something—just because they can. However, in many cases this backfires on them when they ultimately do not have the money to pay for these things. 
Some shopaholics are constantly seeking the approval of their peers—this is mainly when they flaunt new clothing and jewelry to their friends and coworkers. They want to impress people, so they spend money that they do not have. Then of course, this causes problems for them when the bills come in, and they do not have money to pay them.
Other shopaholics are truly impulsive and or compulsive. They really cannot control their own behavior. These folks are the most severe cases.  Because they have no control whatsoever, they will run their bank accounts down, bounce checks, max out their credit and charge cards, and will wind up declaring bankruptcy and or turning to theft, which will eventually lead them to jail or worse.
Why is it important to understand why you are a shopaholic or compulsive spender? Won’t that just dredge up more unhappy memories?  The answers to these questions are simple. Before we can solve a problem, we must first understand why it is a problem and how it came to be a problem. Then we will deal with the reasons first. That is the only way that we can determine a path that will lead us to success and recovery.
Dealing with the root of the problem first will eliminate the reason to do what we do. If you no longer have a reason to do it, it will be easier to get your life on the right track to end your addiction.

The Shopping Addiction Cure, by Olivia Sanborne, is an extremely well-written, non-fiction book on how to stop compulsive spending. Shopping addiction or compulsive shopping is not a recent phenomenon but it has only started to become seriously addressed and treated within the last 10 years. I also liked the book because it made me realize a shopping addiction is not cute or funny. It is as painful as any other addiction. The book is more than poignant. It is worth the time of a woman reader or a man reader. It is an important look at the other side of loving to shop. Overall, I really enjoyed reading this book, it is a very fast read and I look forward to reading more from this author. Highly recommended!