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Friday, June 20, 2014

"Chasing Hope" by Amy Daws

EXCERPT and GIVEAWAY
Chasing Hope
by Amy Daws


Chasing Hope is currently on tour with Goddess Fish Promotions. The tour stops here today for an excerpt and a giveaway. Please be sure to visit the other tour stops as well.


Description
At 33 weeks pregnant, Amy is certain something bad will soon happen, it has too many times before. Deep down she fears it’s only a matter of time before the baby she’s carrying will die. Despite the fact that Amy has been repeatedly slapped in the face with multiple miscarriages, she still can’t seem to quiet that tiny voice in the back of her head that’s screaming at her to not give up hope.
Follow Amy’s true story as she stumbles through her journey with humor and warmth all while dealing with the neuroses that come along with getting her hopes shattered time and time again. All she has to do is close her eyes and she’s lurched back to the memories of her losses on the floor in her bathroom, in the hospital, and even at her place of work. No one knows what the internal mind of a woman who’s lost five babies and suffered this many let downs goes through.
Can Hope ever truly survive memories such as these?


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Excerpt
“You’ll need to take that necklace off before we go Amy, so don’t forget.” Nurse Micaela said as she was typing into the computer next to the bed.
My hands instantly went to touch my five gold rings hanging from an old leather strap around my neck. My five gold rings for my five angel babies. I swallowed and silently prayed I would not make another angel.
I fumbled the clasp behind my neck and suddenly, the clasp broke and all five gold rings fell to the cold linoleum floor, clinking along the bed rail on their way down. “Kevin. My rings, they fell! Oh my God,” Shock and panic washed over me. It’s a sign; a bad sign. My baby isn’t going to make it. My angels are telling me to prepare for the other shoe to drop. Another nightmare headed our way.
I sat on the side of the bed while Kevin and Micaela searched the floor to find all five. Tears threatened my lower eyelids and I whispered, “This is really bad. This can’t be good. I’m losing her Kevin,” My chin trembled and my face twisted in pain as the tears poured down my face and sobs freed themselves from my throat.
Micaela looked up at me seriously, “NO! This isn’t a bad sign. This could be a good sign. Your angels are telling you it’s time to let them go and move on. You’re having this baby Amy.”



Featured Review
I wish I could find the perfect words to describe this book and the emotion that any mother who has lost a baby will feel while reading Amy's story. She is so honest and open about feelings that are so hard for a women who has gone through this to deal with in her own heart let alone put on paper for the whole world to read. While Chasing Hope will bring tears to your eyes, and maybe cause you to eat a some ice cream, it's perfectly balanced with humor that you can relate to. If you are on the fence about buying this book I would say think no more and buy it ... you will be happy you did.



About the Author
Amy Daws is local network affiliate commercial producer and lives in Sioux Falls, SD with her husband, Kevin and their daughter, Lorelei. She graduated with honors from the University of Northern Iowa, despite fiercely executing her wild college-girl phase. Amy received her make-believe medical degree from the school of Google on infertility and miscarriage (that’s not a real thing). On most nights, you can find Amy and her family dancing in their living room to Strawberry Shortcake’s theme song or stuffing themselves inside children sized playhouses and then struggling to get back out because there is nothing they wouldn’t do for their little miracle. She is passionate about sharing her story and connecting with other women like her that have suffered losses and are in search of empathy and understanding. Amy held on to hope in her journey because she knew the payoff of a miracle child would be worth the wait.



Giveaway
Enter the tour-wide giveaway for a chance to win a silver Chasing Hope necklace (US only).

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Saturday, April 5, 2014

"101 Vagina" by Philip Werner

Note: Some people may find this blog post and book offensive

REVIEW
101 Vagina
by Philip Werner


After two years in the making, the 101 Vagina book is being launched in the USA and Canada with a series of exhibitions across the two countries from April to June 2014.
101 Vagina is about breaking down the taboo around the vagina and body image shame generally. It's also about the sharing of story and celebration of our diversity.
The book comprises 101 black and white photos of women's vaginas, in front on standing pose, accompanied by a message written by each woman about her vagina. The messages span the spectrum of emotions and form a small compendium of women's experiences with their vaginas and womanhood in general.
The book is self-published via Taboo Books by German/Australian photographer Philip Werner. It was first launched in Melbourne in 2013 after a successful crowdfunding campaign, and Werner is now taking the book to the world via America.
Werner was first inspired by reading Eve Ensler's Vagina Monologues in 2007, and wanted to do something to counteract the unrealistic standards held up by various media which lead many women to feel that they are not normal or attractive.
101 Vagina is relevant to current issues around labiaplasty. There has been a startling increase in genital cosmetic surgery being sought by women, and even teenage girls. The book has been widely praised for its honest, diverse images and messages.
$5 from every book sold will go to charities working to end or heal violence towards women.
Traversing the continent, the tour will start in Los Angeles (5-13 April) before visiting San Francisco (19-27 April), Montreal (17-25 May), New York (3-8 June), and finishing in Toronto (14-22 June). Exhibitions in the UK may follow. For the full international tour details see: http://101vagina.com/usa-canada.
The book launch exhibitions will also feature a Festival of the Vagina, bringing local artists performers and educators together in vaginal celebration.
101 Penis and 101 Breasts are also in the making.


Description
101 Vagina is about breaking down the taboo around vaginas and body image shame generally. It confronts the lies we are told about what's normal and celebrates our uniqueness and diversity. 101 Vagina is also about the sharing of story, of experience; the passing down of knowledge and wisdom.
This book contains 101 beautiful black and white photos of 101 women, along with a message, story or poem written by each woman to accompany their photo. The messages are candid and span the spectrum of emotions. They are raw and honest and form a small compendium of women's experiences with their bodies and womanhood in general, with a focus on the vagina.
101 Vagina is light and profound, cheeky and deep.
This book is particularly relevant given the startling increase in labiaplasty, cosmetic surgery of the vagina. The photos and messages confront the lies we are told about what's normal and where beauty lies.
Emmy award winner, Toni Childs, has written a poignant foreword for this book, encouraging us to take an unflinching look at ourselves to help ease this taboo.

Book Trailer


Excerpts
Foreword by Toni Childs
If you are walking around on planet Earth it is because of the Vagina.
I am deeply honored to write the forward for this in-your-face book that asks us to look closer at what we get our knickers in a twist about. This under the covers look at the Vagina invites us into a rare holy land where women share their thoughts, ideas, philosophies and vulnerabilities with us about what it is to be woman.
This is pure courage folks, not for the faint-hearted, so I applaud each and every woman who chose to stand transparent in her grace and dignity, and share this most splendid of all of life’s miracles – her Vagina!
101 Vagina is a daring, provocative and controversial book about our first home. It is daring because it is a photo book that allows us to see various Vaginas up close and personal; naked, raw, young and old. It is provocative because society is not yet comfortable with facing the mixed emotions of trepidation and fascination that rise at viewing the Yoni, soberly, head on. And it is controversial because, this book was devised by a man.
Philip is what I call a compassionate man and I had the privilege to meet him in October of 2012 after reading about an inspired act of peace he initiated, the peace march for Jill Meagher, attended by 30,000 people. Moved by Philip’s reflection and peaceful call to action, I sent him a note of deep gratitude for listening to his beautiful spirit.
This book is juicy, it confronts, reveals, shocks, and tears at our heart-strings. This book of conversations, declarations and confessions is an opportunity to blast the doors off the cage to our personal and collective limitations surrounding our sexuality & sensuality.
So many of our negative reactions to our sexual parts have to do with family and societal beliefs we’ve adopted. If we are to evolve it is essential that we learn how to jettison what is not ours in order to stay open, innocent, and able to discover what is true for ourselves. To do this takes self-reflection, resolute courage, a willingness to be transparent, and dogged tenacity; an embracing of one's power, dignity and grace, often in the face of fierce traditions and taboos.
And so, I ask of you the reader to activate your courage, strip down to your birthday suit and stand before a mirror. Give yourself permission to love yourself as you are, to be curious, to be an explorer, to appreciate yourself and the journey that has brought you to this point and to seek the answers you’ve always wanted but were so afraid to ask.
It is important to note here the great responsibility and honour it is to be born a woman, a doorway and life initiator. This is the time of the Feminine Mysteries remembered. The remembering comes to each woman personally; through self-determination, and by allowing only those who are worthy, and who can love truly to spend time within this most sacred of vessels in order to create a new world.
In conclusion, I view this book as a celebration of the most incredibly engineered technology on the planet. A Vagina is a sacred porthole where we emerge from a wet warm darkness into a blindingly powerful sensory potent reality we call, “LIFE”. The Vagina is the boat we all sail in on. And each and every woman is a keeper of this Sacred Vessel.
Toni Childs
Singer, Storyteller, Life Activist & Performance Artist
(Byron Bay, January 2013)
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The preview below represents a small selection of the 101 photos and messages which comprise the 101 Vagina book. The book itself is 216 pages beautifully bound in hardcover.




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From the Artist
101 Vagina is about breaking down the taboo surrounding vaginas and the shame many women feel around their genitals, sexuality and bodies in general. It is about celebrating diversity and the sharing of story. It is also about beauty. The beauty of simplicity, of black and white photos, of the female form. And the beauty of open hearts, sharing vulnerability, pain, trust, love, hope and courage.
The initial inspiration for this project came from Eve Ensler’s Vagina Monologues, which brought home to me how debilitating the vagina taboo can be on a personal and societal level. Yet Eve’s work also showed the power that lies in the confronting of such taboos.
It is a sad fact that an increasing number of women are seeking labiaplasty. Sad that so many women end up believing they are somehow not normal or attractive due to the gross misrepresentation, in various media, of what normal is and where beauty lies. It is outrageous that Australian law forces this misrepresentation by making it illegal for normal vaginas with protruding labia minora to be shown in soft-core, unclassified porn, even though protruding labia minora are more common than not. Our law!
Given its aims, the 101 Vagina project was a success right from its inception. The stories shared on the website’s blog, as in this book, are candid and span the spectrum of emotions. They form a small compendium of women’s experiences with their genitalia, sexuality and womanhood. There is also a sense of generosity; a feeling that the sharing of story is a healing gift to oneself and others. People would tell me of reactions, conversations and feelings the project provoked, often with a sense of relief; the relief that inevitably comes with the lifting of a taboo.
I’m so glad to have been able to create that space, rattle that taboo and facilitate the lifting of some of that shame. And I feel honoured and humbled by the courageous participation and trust placed in me by so many women.
It is my dearest hope that this book will prevent some of the difficulties shared here from being repeated; that somewhere a teenage girl will, as a result, not hover with scissors over her own labia; that someone somewhere will not make that disparaging comment that can wound so deeply; that we will all be more free to celebrate our bodies and our sexuality.
I believe many of our societal problems are related in some way to sexual repression, including violence towards women and girls, if not violence in general. I would contend that cultures where sexuality is openly accepted as natural and normal are generally more peaceful and less violent.
John Lennon said: “We live in a world where we have to hide to make love, while violence is practiced in broad daylight.”
We need to turn this around.
By now it has been over two years since I started this project. During this time I have been blessed with the opportunity to share stories, experiences, opinions and feelings, about our bodies and sexuality with so many people. I have received so much support and encouragement to keep going and make this book real, and yes, I also faced some challenging and prickly questions.
It’s been an amazing journey and I’m looking forward to the next chapter :)
Philip Werner
(Brunswick. February, 2013)



The Buzz
“Most people have trouble even saying the V-word but a new book is celebrating vaginas of all shapes and sizes.” ~ The Sydney Morning Herald
“Through 101 Vagina, Werner invites viewers to discuss the vagina more comfortably. Werner hopes this will encourage women to feel more comfortable with their bodies, doing away with the need to alter appearances through cosmetic labiaplasty, a procedure on the rise in Australia. ” ~ Broadsheet Melbourne
“Hide the vagina: Police called to shield public from images.” ~ MX Newspaper (Front page)
“He was the local resident who organised the peace march to commemorate the life of murdered Melbourne woman Jill Meagher and he marched with a banner that said, ‘Choosing peace, hope, non-violence and solidarity with all women’. I loved that. I loved that this young bloke could do something so sweet and serious and important. Which is why I haven’t run away screaming from his project 101 Vagina.” ~ The Canberra Times
“Such was the enthusiasm for 101 Vagina that Werner crowd-sourced funding from Pozible.” ~ The Age
“A photographic exhibition of women’s vulvae at the Sydney Fringe’s Fringe Arts Forum was last week forced to censor its work over concerns it could offend the public. The 101 Vagina Book Exhibition … was told to cover parts of its images ” ~ City News
“It’s a book full of close-ups of female genitalia created by a man but it’s not what you might initially think. With ‘designer vaginas’ all the rage, Philip Werner is trying to celebrate the everyday variety.” ~ Ciao Newspaper
“Sydney Fringe Festival exhibition censored.” ~ City Hub (Front page)
“Photographer Philip Werner refuses to conform to the pervasive societal and cultural cringe-factor.” ~ Trouble Mag
“Entering a gallery containing 101 gorgeous black-and-white images of women’s vaginas isn’t your usual art experience. Initially, the exhibition was awfully confronting and somewhat uncomfortable … [The] supplementary stories challenged the ideas we have about the supposed ‘normality’ of vaginas and instead revealed our individuality and diversity.” ~ Upstart
“The taboos around our bodies, and around the vagina, in particular, allow shame to flourish. Could embracing the vagina eradicate sexual violence?” ~ The Good Men Project

Review
When I was first approached to review this book, my initial reaction was, "No way!" But I calmed down and had a look at the material Philip Werner sent me. The more I saw and read, the more I was determined that I had to feature this book. Philip kindly sent me a hardback copy of the book for review. It is exquisite. A pristine white cover with only the words "101 Vagina". The pages are thick, smooth, and glossy. Simply turning the pages is an experience in itself. Even the dedication is beautiful: "Dedicated to our bodies and our sexuality, our deepest desires and most delicate vulnerability."
Toni Childs certainly gets it right in her foreword. This book is definitely "in-your-face". Like her, I applaud the courage of the women who have taken part in this project. And I applaud Philip Werner for producing this "daring, provocative and controversial book".
The book itself features anonymous pictures of 101 vaginas accompanied by intimate revelations in poetry or prose. We are offered personal insights into their vaginas from women with issues about the way it looks, a woman proud of her hairiness, a pregnant woman about to give birth, a girl about to insert her first tampon, a woman having her period, a woman who compares her sexual encounters with meals, a proud woman's poetic homage to her vagina, and many more.
The passages are well-written, honest, heart-felt, touching, and uplifting. Some are even humorous. This book does contain some confronting issues including masturbation, menstruation, sexual encounters, and alternative words for "vagina" which some may consider offensive. However, there is nothing overtly sexual about the text or the photos, which are taken front-on from a standing position in black and white. As one of the contributors states, "Nothing to be shy or ashamed about, rather something to celebrate and enjoy."
Through 101 Vagina, Werner invites viewers to discuss the vagina more comfortably. Werner hopes this will encourage women to feel more comfortable with their bodies, doing away with the need to alter appearances through cosmetic labiaplasty. Well, you have certainly made me more comfortable, Philip. Thank you.

About the Author
Philip Werner is a photographer, web-designer, furniture maker, gardener, engineer, peace activist, hippy, and sensitive little boy hiding in a grownup’s body.
Born in Germany, he grew up next to fields and forests on the outskirts of Hamburg until his parents got tired of the cold war and brought the family to Australia for a warmer climate.
After graduating in Mechanical Engineering at The University of Sydney, including two years on exchange in Sweden, Philip became disillusioned with the workabee world. He sought refuge in various community projects and devoted himself to his artistic pursuit, photography.
His parents were both avid photographers, so cameras were always around. He spent many hours as a teenager in a makeshift darkroom at home, long before digital cameras became common, and still uses his father’s old medium format Rolleiflex 2.8F from the 1960’s.
Through this project Philip has become aware, and an avid supporter, of the sex positive movement making waves around the world.
He currently lives in Melbourne with his cat Frankie and two lovely house-mates.

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Thursday, August 15, 2013

"Love's True Second Chance" by Jeff Dawson

Love's True Second Chance
by Jeff Dawson



Description
Did you ever wonder what happened to your first love? Did you find yourself thinking back to those carefree days of high school, when the only thing which really mattered was rushing to school so you could see and hold that someone special? I know I did. For thirty years, I always wondered how her life turned out. Was she happy? Was she married? Had life been good to her? All of those questions were answered in January of 2009 when we reunited.
For those who wonder if love is worth a second chance, even if it ends in tragedy, the answer is an emphatic, YES! If I wouldn't have given "us" one more chance, I would have missed out on the most wonderful seven months of love two people could ever share.
Get a copy today and find out how deeply one can truly love.

Excerpt
Chapter 1
THE END
July 20th, 2009 7:00am I held her hand and kissed her face with the arrival of a sunny beautiful morning, hoping for a miracle. The shift change for nurses and doctors was in full swing. Staff checking in, charts being reviewed, doctors and nurses exchanging information; vital signs being verified. Debbie’s breathing is very labored as it had been for the last twenty four hours. I never knew if each breath would be her last. The cancer was running its course through her beautiful body at a terrible pace. An aide came in to change the sheets and clean her up. She asked if I would like her to wash Debbie's hair. I pondered the thought for a minute looking at the love of my live and replied in a hushed, choked tone, “She would like that. How long will it take you to change her bed and wash her hair?” She said about fifteen minutes. I stepped out of the room and called her friend Cathey to get an estimated time of arrival. She assured me she would be at the hospital within thirty minutes.
Debbie was in good hands with the aide.  I decided to get a little air, purchase a coke and have a cigarette. I went to the store with one thought running through my mind, Is there anything else I can do for her?  Had I done everything I could for the “love of my life”?  Would God sit by her side and let her live out her life on earth or whisper in her ear, take her hand, and guide her to heaven?  I had no control over what was happening to her.
Cathey arrived at the hospital room at 8:50am. She had been detained by her hubby who was in the process of coming home from Alaska after a three-month tour with the railroad. She called looking for me. I told her I was downstairs having a smoke but would be up in a few minutes. She said Deb was doing fine. My gut told me different.
Something had changed. There was something in the air that wasn’t right. I hurried back into the hospital. The elevator took an eternity to reach the third floor. I rushed down the hallway with a sense of urgency and hesitancy. I entered the room; Cathey was standing to the left of the bed. She asked how I was. I never responded. The labored breathing had stopped. “Cathey, how long has she been like this?” She heard the concern in my voice and saw the look of worry on my face. She moved closer to the bed, put her fingers on Debbie's right wrist and checked for a pulse. She wanted to believe she felt one. I laid my hand on her warm chest; it wasn’t moving. The pain in her face was starting to subside. I believe Cathey said she was going to get a nurse. All I could do was rub her chest and stroke her hair. Tears were starting to fall from my eyes. The nurse came in and slowly moved me to check for any sign of life. Without a word she exited the room looking for the doctor on call. He entered the room with the nurse. They both checked for signs of life.
The doctor slowly turned, looked me in the eye, placed his hand on my right shoulder and said the words with as much compassion as possible, “I’m very sorry. She's gone.” It wasn’t until this moment did I start to understand the depth of our love. My heart didn’t break; it literally shattered into a million pieces. I turned towards Cathey and collapsed into her arms, crying uncontrollably.
A thirty-year love abruptly ended.

Review
Jeff Dawson wrote a very moving account of how he fell in love, fell out of love, found it again then lost it forever. The unique aspect of this book is that the reader gets the male perspective on love. He takes us back to high school to establish the background. For those of us who are 50ish, it's a walk down memory lane because of so many shared experiences of that time period. Then the story moves chronologically with respect to his love of a lifetime. You will laugh, cry, get angry and sometimes take sides with the characters. Also, many of us will see ourselves in other sections of the book and ultimately we have to ask ourselves if we could have held up as well under such adversity. I've read it several times and will read it again!

Interview With the Author
Hi Jeff, thanks for joining me today to discuss your book Love’s True Second Chance.
Which writers have influenced you the most? None that come to mind. I spent my years immersed in non-fiction works surrounding WWII.
What age group do you recommend your book for? This book is for 16 to 80 year olds.
What sparked the idea for this book? Debbie's daughters. After she passed I asked them if I could write our love story. They agreed it would be wonderful tribute.
That's a great thing to do, Jeff. What was the hardest part to write in this book? All of it. I don’t know how many times I cried as I recalled all the memories we shared.
That must have been very difficult for you. How do you hope this book affects its readers? That love is worth a second chance. Never stop pursuing it, because if you do, you will miss out on the most wonderful relationship imaginable.
That's great advice. How long did it take you to write this book? I believe it took four months.
What is your writing routine? Really don’t have one. I write when the ideas start flooding in.
How did you get your book published? I self-published it through Amazon and Smashwords.
What advice do you have for someone who would like to become a published writer? Stop talking about doing it and start writing. Don't worry about getting it right the first time. When it's all said and done, you will have revised it at least six times before sending it to a good editor and even then, there will be some tweaking. So, stop waffling, procrastinating and contemplating, sit down and get on with it. Readers are waiting.
More great advice, Jeff. What do you like to do when you're not writing? Spend time with my daughter, her three girls and my oldest son.
What does your family think of your writing? I have no idea. To date, I don't think any of them have read a word one. If they have, they haven't said a word to me.
Please tell us a bit about your childhood. I had a normal (?) childhood. Played sports (baseball was my favorite), got in trouble, worked on my HO train set, read, practiced my trombone, earned money cutting lawns, washing cars and finally was old enough to work at Wendy's. Made some really bad films with my friends, got in trouble - imagine that. Dated a lot of girls. Overall, just had a great time growing up.
Did you enjoy school? Absolutely. No worries. Wake up, eat, learn (?), play and eat again. Does it get any better than that?
Did you like reading when you were a child? Yes. I became an avid reader at twelve.
When did you first realize you wanted to be a writer? After my back surgery in 2010. After spending twenty-five years in the construction industry, it was time for a change. My first work was a play I wrote in Junior High. It was along the lines of Mel Brooks', "The Producers". It was a parody on the "Last Ten Days of Hitler". Needless to say, despite the faculty enjoying the parody, they didn't think it was appropriate for public consumption.
Did your childhood experiences influence your writing? Not really.
What was your favorite book as a child? Not a favorite book, but a favorite series. Ballantine Books released a series on WWII. Each books was 160 pages each and only cost $1.00!
Who were your favorite authors as a child? Alistair MacLean.
What can we look forward to from you in the future? Two books of poetry, a sequel to Gateway: Pioche and with luck, Debbie’s daughters are going to collaborate and show our love story through their eyes. I told them, write what you want. I will not criticize it. It’s their story. I’m curious to see what they thought about our relationship.
Thanks so much for talking to me today, Jeff, and for your generous donation to our giveaway.

From the Author
I spent twenty-five years in the wonderful world of road construction. Back surgery in 2010 put the skids on that career. My body couldn't handle the rigors of twelve to sixteen hour days, six to seven days a week anymore. As I convalesced, licking my wounds, I wondered what to do next. Not being out in the sun getting baked, or dodging traffic, was going to be a hard act to follow. Seriously, what else did I know? An article in the Dallas Morning News caught my eye. It was about being a professional speaker. Hmm. That sounds interesting. Becoming mobile again, I took a seat in front of the blank monitor, pondering what to write.
Let's start with something we know: my life. The first work was titled God's Plan: A Glimpse Into One's Life. I re-titled it six months later to Why Did Everything Happen? This is a look back at the last twenty-five years and how the death of my partner, father and true love affected my life. I was amazed at the revelations. Since then, I've moved on to write in several different genres. Some say I should change my name when diverting from the path. Well, right or wrong, I'm sticking with my name. The current works range from the love story of my one true love: Debbie Beck, RIP 7-20-2009 (Love's True Second Chance), an alternate historical perspective of Vampires and WWII (Occupation), a newly released Sci-Fi time travel adventure (Gateway: Pioche), to Baseball Coaching Manuals. Granted, not every book I write is for everyone. I understand that, but I hope I'm showing readers diversity can be a good avenue.
I currently live in the Dallas-Fort Worth area, spending a lot of time with my daughter, her girls and my oldest son. When I was in construction, I never had or took the time to enjoy what surrounded me: love, family and friends. My true love, Debbie and her girls reminded me what was important in life; "we work to live, not live to work".
I hope you take a chance on a book or two.
One last thought. I'm working on sequels to, Occupation and Gateway: Pioche. Other works in the pipeline are a collection of military and love poems, and a short horror flick. How's that for diversity?

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